Infertility is a word that people are still super cautious about saying they have or a loved one has (It's not AIDS or anything that is incurable, its just having problems getting pregnant).
And most women don't like to openly admit they are having problems, because it makes them feel less like a woman.
My husband and I are going through infertility treatment and I'm not ashamed to talk about it.
Talking about it makes it more bearable, often laughable at times.
When we got married, my husband and I talked about starting a family but wanting to wait about 6 months. So we waited 6 months to start trying, well 6 months and turned into 3 years of trying and still no baby. We realized we might need a little help getting pregnant. After doing our research on doctors and looking on the SART website (Society for Artificial Reproductive Technology http://www.sart.org/) and the CDC website (Center for Disease Control http://www.cdc.gov/art/ARTReports.htm). We found our doctor based off the success rates listed on the tables AND the history of the physicians.
The first appointment was nothing more than a blood draw, weight, blood pressure and a trans-vaginal ultrasound (nothing magical about the wand). Then we met our doctor, who was everything we could have hoped for in this situation. He didn't sugar coat things and explained them so we could understand what was going on. The hubby had to go in a couple days later and give a "specimen" which he will admit was kind of creepy to do in a doctor's office, however he was a trooper.
After everything came back we met with the doctor again to go over our options and results... So the results were...unexplained female infertility.
Yep, unexplained infertility, meaning there should be no reason why we can't get pregnant however, my body is deciding to make things difficult. The doctor did say that my antral follicle (where the eggs form) count was lower than what they like to see (mine was 15, normal is 20).
Great! Now what? Clomid with a HCG injection and IUI, that was what. Basically, 1 pill for 5 days and then an injection of HCG when the doctor's office says after blood work and an ultrasound (another one with the non-magical wand).
For those of you just starting this egg toss called infertility treatment, let me explain clomid to you (the things NOBODY will tell you about it, not scary stuff).
If your husband thought PMS was bad, just wait clomid makes you moodier than your worst
case of PMS. Nobody will tell you or him that it will be like your emotions have been over
taken by an irrational version of you. Stupid things, and I mean STUPID things will make
you cry or piss you off.
You sex drive will be virtually non existant, which is so helpful when the doctor tells you
when you need to have sex (yep, it's that personal).
Oh and hot flashes, you will know what to expect come menopause!
You WILL resume back to your normal state of being and for whatever reason, it makes
PMS look so much nicer to your hubby!
You may be thinking HCG injection? Yep, HCG injection given to you by you! Yes, it's a daunting thought however not as bad as you think.
And the IUI, well, now I know how cattle feel...Basically you and your hubby go to the doctor, together, he gives them his "specimen" and about 45 minutes to 1 hour later, they (the nurse or doctor) inject it vaginally through a tiny cathater. Sounds glamorous, right?
Then you wait, two weeks to take a pregnancy test, and if your results are like our were BIG FAT NEGATIVE (BFN) don't get discouraged, that just means that the next step of the process can being... MORE HORMONES!!!!
You may be reading this say, why in the world would the doctors do that if it doesn't work....Here is your answer: your insurance companys says they have to (different topic for a different blog).
Now, I will tell you up until this point was the most exhausting emotional rollercoaster that I have ever been on and I survived. I survived because my husband is super supportive and understanding. I survived because my family is super supportive and understanding. I survived because I have friends who are going throug the same thing and the ones that aren't are super supportive and understanding. I survived because my boss and co-workers are super supportive and understanding.
Don't be afraid to talk about it and don't be afraid to apologize for your irrational behavior (trust me, people appreciate it. Even if it's just "sorry for the past couple weeks."
The next step is IVF (if you choose that route)... I started birth control to keep me from ovulating, however the clomid created a nice cyst on my ovary so we had to delay the cycle...
Once the IVF cycle starts I will blog about it for all of you out there...
My goal of these blogs are to bring awarness to the treatments of infertiltiy and not make it such a lonely feeling thing. It's emotional, exhausting and exciting and should be talked about.
In the mean time lots of prayers and baby dust to all of you on this journey!